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Saturday, 3 October 2020

KADAMBINI GANGULY FIRST DOCTOR IN BRITISH INDIA BORN 1861 JULY 18 - 1923 OCTOBER 3

 


KADAMBINI GANGULY FIRST DOCTOR IN BRITISH INDIA BORN 1861 JULY 18 - 1923 OCTOBER 3




கடம்பினி கங்கூலி (அ) காதம்பனி கங்குலி (Kadambini Ganguly) (வங்காள: কাদম্বিনী গাঙ্গুলি; 18 ஜூலை 1861 – 3 அக்தோபர் 1923), சந்திரமுகி பாசு இருவரும் பிரித்தானியப் பேரரசின் முதல் இரண்டு இந்தியப் பெண் பட்டதாரிகள் ஆவர். இவர் முதல் மேலை மருத்துவப் பயிற்சிப் பட்டம்பெற்ற தெற்காசியப் பெண் உடலியல் மருத்துவர் ஆவார். ஆனந்தி கோபால் ஜோஷி அதே ஆண்டில் (1886) அமெரிக்காவில் மருத்துவப் பட்டம் பெற்ற பெண் உடலியல் மருத்துவர் ஆவார்.


வாழ்க்கைக் குறிப்பு

கடம்பினி கங்கூலி 1861ல் பிரிட்டிஷ் இந்தியாவில் பீகாரைச் சேர்ந்த பகல்பூரில் பிறந்தார். இவரது சொந்த ஊர் பரிசாலிலுள்ள (பங்களாதேஷ்) சந்ததியாகும்.இவரது தந்தை பிரஜ கிஷோர் பாசு, பகல்பூர் பள்ளியில் தலைமையாசிரியராக இருந்தார். பிரம சீர்திருத்தவாதியான அவரது தந்தை அபய் சரண் மாலிக் என்பவருடன் சேர்ந்து பகல்பூர் மகில சமிதி என்ற பெண்கள் அமைப்பை 1863ல் ஏற்படுத்தினார். அது பிரித்தானிய இந்தியாவில் பெண்விடுதலைக்காக உருவாக்கப்பட்ட முதல் இயக்கமாகும்.


கடம்பினி கங்கூலி பங்க மகில வித்யாலயாபள்ளியில் படித்தார். அப்பள்ளி 1878ல் பெத்தூன் பள்ளியுடன் இணைக்கப்பட்டது. பெத்தூன் பள்ளியில் படித்துக் கொண்டிருக்கும்போது 1878ல் கல்கத்தாப் பல்கலைக்கழக நுழைவு தேர்வினை எழுதி அதில் தேர்ச்சியும் பெற்றார். அவ்வாறு வெற்றிபெற்ற முதல் பெண்மணி அவர் ஒருவரே. அவரது முயற்சியைப் பாராட்டும்வகையில் பெத்தூன் கல்லூரியில் 1879ல் முதலில் இடைநிலைப் (FA) படிப்பும் தொடர்ந்து இளங்கலைப் பட்டபடிப்பும் தொடங்கப்பட்டன. இவரும் சந்திரமுகி பாசுவும் பெத்தூன் கல்லூரியின் முதல் பெண் பட்டதாரிகள். இருவரும் இந்தியாவிலும் மற்றும் பிரித்தானியப் பேரரசிலுமே முதல் பெண் பட்டதாரிகளாக ஆனார்கள்.[1]



மருத்துவத்துறை

கங்கூலி கல்கத்தா மருத்துவக் கல்லூரியில் சேர்ந்து படித்தார். 1886ல் ஜிபிஎம்சி (GBMC – Graduate of Bengal Medical College) பட்டம் பெற்று மருத்துவராகப் பணியாற்றும் தகுதியைப் பெற்றார். இவரும் ஆனந்தி கோபால் ஜோஷியும் மேற்கத்திய மருத்துவம் பயின்ற முதல் இந்தியப் பெண் மருத்துவர்கள். 1881ல் அபலா போஸ் என்ற பெண்மனி நுழைவுத்தேர்வில் வெற்றிபெற்றுங்கூட கல்கத்தா மருத்துவக் கல்லூரியில் அவருக்கு இடமளிக்க மறுத்துவிட்டனர். அதனால் அவர் மெட்ராஸ் (இப்பொழுது - சென்னை) மருத்துவக் கல்லூரியில் சேர்ந்தார். ஆனால் அவர் படிப்பை முடித்து மருத்துவப் பட்டம் பெறவில்லை. கங்கூலி அவரது ஆசிரியர்களிடமிருந்தும் சமூகத்தின் பழமைவாதிகளிடமிருந்தும் பலவிதமான எதிர்ப்புகளைச் சமாளிக்க வேண்டியிருந்தது. அவர் 1892ல் மேற்படிப்புக்காக ஐக்கிய ராச்சியத்துக்குச் சென்று எல்ஆர்சிபி (LRCP) – எடின்பர்க், எல்ஆர்சிஎஸ் (LRCS ) - கிளாஸ்கோ, ஜிஃப்பிஎஸ் (GFPS) - டப்ளின் ஆகிய மருத்துவப் பட்டப்படிப்புகளை முடித்துவிட்டு இந்தியாவிற்குத் திரும்பினார். லேடி டுஃபெரின் மருத்துவமனையில் சிறிது காலம் வேலை பார்த்துவிட்டுப் பிறகு சொந்த மருத்துவப் பயிற்சியில் ஈடுபட்டார்.



சமுதாயப் பணிகள்

1883ல் கடம்பினி பிரம்ம சீர்திருத்தவாதியும் பெண்விடுதலைக்குப் போராடியவருமான துவாரகநாத் கங்கூலியைத் திருமணம் செய்தார். அதற்குப்பிறகு ஆசிரியர்கள், பழமைவாதிகளின் எதிர்ப்பை மீறி காதம்பனி மருத்துவம் படித்தார். இதன் மூலம் தெற்காசியக் கல்லூரி ஒன்றில் அலோபதி மருத்துவம் படித்த முதல் பெண் என்ற பெருமையை காதம்பனி பெற்றார். ஆனந்திபாய் அமெரிக்காவிலும் காதம்பானி கல்கத்தா மருத்துவக்கல்லூரியிலும் ஒரே ஆண்டில் மருத்துவம் பட்டம் பெற்றனர்.


கடம்பினியும், துவாரகநாத் கங்கூலியும் பெண்விடுதலைக்காகவும் இந்தியாவின் கிழக்குப் பகுதியிலிருந்த நிலக்கரிச் சுரங்கங்களில் வேலை செய்த பெண்களின் பணிவரைமுறைகளைச் சீர்திருத்தவும் பாடுபட்டனர். 1889ல் நடந்த இந்திய தேசிய காங்கிரசின் ஐந்தாவது கூட்டத்தொடரில் பங்கேற்ற ஆறு பிரதிநிதிகளில் கடம்பினி கங்கூலியும் ஒருவர். வங்காளப் பிரிவினைக்குப் பிறகு 1906ல் கல்காத்தாவில் மகளிர் மாநாட்டை நடத்தினார். 1908ல் தென்னாப்பிரிக்காவிலுள்ள டிரான்ஸ்வாலில் சத்தியாகிரகத்தில் ஈடுபட்ட வேலையாட்களுக்கு அனுதாபமும் ஆதரவும் தெரிவிக்கும் வண்ணம் கல்கத்தாவில் ஒரு மாநாட்டுக்கு ஏற்பாடு செய்து அதற்குத் தலைமை தாங்கி நடத்தினார். அந்தப் பணியாளர்களூக்கு உதவிசெய்ய சங்கங்கள் அமைத்து நிதி திரட்டினார். 1914ல் கல்கத்தாவுக்கு வந்த மகாத்மா காந்திக்கு மரியாதை செலுத்த சதாரன் பிரம சமாஜ் நடத்திய கூட்டத்திற்குத் தலைமை தாங்கினார்.


எட்டுக் குழந்தைகளுக்குத் தாயான கங்கூலி வீட்டுப்பணிகளுக்கும் அதிகநேரம் செலவிட நேரிட்டது. அவர் தையற்கலையிலும் தேர்ந்தவராயிருந்தார்.


அமெரிக்க வரலாற்றாளரான டேவிட் கோப்ஃப்[2] கடம்பினி கங்கூலியைப் பற்றிக் கூறுவது:


துவாரகநாத் கங்கூலியின் மனைவியான கடம்பினி திறமையானவரும் முற்போக்கு சிந்தனை கொண்டவருமாவார், அவர்கள் இருவரும் பரஸ்பர அன்பும் பாசமும் அறிவுமுடைய தம்பதிகள்.வங்காள சமுதாயத்தில் பெண் விடுதலைக்குப் பாடுபட்ட பிரம மற்றும் கிருத்துவப் பெண்களுக்கிடையே கங்கூலி வித்தியாசமானவர். சூழ்நிலைகளைத் தாண்டி எழுந்து நிற்கக் கூடிய தனது தனித்திறமையால் வங்காளப் பெண்களின் விடுதலைக்காக செயற்பட்ட சதாரன் பிரமோக்களுக்கு அவர் ஒரு நல்ல முன்னுதாரணமாக இருந்தார்



KADAMBINI GANGULY ,BRITISH EMPHIRE`S 
FIRST LADY DOCTOR GRADUATED  1886
DIED 1923 OCTOBER 3




Kadambini Ganguly (Bengali: কাদম্বিনী গাঙ্গুলি) (18 July 1861 – 3 October 1923) and Chandramukhi Basu were the first two female graduates from India and the entire British Empire. She was also the first South Asian female physician, trained in western medicine, to graduate in South Asia. Anandi Gopal Joshi, another Indian, graduated as a physician the same year (1886) in the United States.

Early life[edit]

The daughter of Brahmo reformer Braja Kishore Basu, she was born on 18 July 1861 at Bhagalpur, Bihar in British India. The family was from Chandsi, in Barisal which is now in Bangladesh. Her father was headmaster of Bhagalpur School. He and Abhay Charan Mallick started the movement for women's emancipation at Bhagalpur, establishing the women's organisation Bhagalpur Mahila Samiti in 1863, the first in India.


Kadambini started her education at Banga Mahila Vidyalaya and while at Bethune School (established by Bethune) in 1878 became the first woman to pass the University of Calcutta entrance examination. It was partly in recognition of her efforts that Bethune College first introduced FA (First Arts), and then graduation courses in 1883. She and Chandramukhi Basu became the first graduates from Bethune College, and in the process became the first female graduates in the country and in the entire British Empire.[1]

Medical education and profession[edit]

Ganguly studied medicine at the Calcutta Medical College. In 1886, she was given a Graduate of Bengal Medical College degree. She thus became one of the two, Anandi Gopal Joshi being the other, Indian women doctors who qualified to practice western medicine. Also another Indian woman by the name of Abala Bose passed entrance in 1881 but was refused admission to the medical college and went to Madras (now Chennai) to study medicine but never graduated.


Kadambini overcame some opposition from the teaching staff, and orthodox sections of society. She went to the United Kingdom in 1892 and returned to India after qualifying as LRCP (Edinburgh), LRCS (Glasgow), and GFPS (Dublin). After working for a short period in Lady Dufferin Hospital, she started her own private practice

Social activities[edit]

In 1883 she married the Brahmo reformer and leader of women's emancipation Dwarkanath Ganguly. They were actively involved in female emancipation and social movements to improve work conditions of female coal miners in eastern India. She was one of the six female delegates to the fifth session of the Indian National Congress in 1889, and even organised the Women's Conference in Calcutta in 1906 in the aftermath of the partition of Bengal. In 1908, she had also organised and presided over a Calcutta meeting for expressing sympathy with Satyagraha – inspired Indian labourers in Transvaal, South Africa. She formed an association to collect money with the help of fundraisers to assist the workers.

Personal life[edit]

As the mother of eight children, she had to devote considerable time to her household affairs. She was deft in needlework.

The noted American historian David Kopf[2] has written, "Ganguli's wife, Kadambini, was appropriately enough the most accomplished and liberated Brahmo woman of her time. From all accounts, their relationship was most unusual in being founded on mutual love, sensitivity and intelligence… Mrs. Ganguli's case was hardly typical even among the more emancipated Brahmo and Christian women in contemporary Bengali society. Her ability to rise above circumstances and to realize her potential as a human being made her a prize attraction to Sadharan Brahmos dedicated ideologically to the liberation of Bengal's women."[3]





Sunday, 15 April 2018

Queer actress Disha Ganguly takes her own life





Queer actress Disha Ganguly 
takes her own life




Why Disha Died: 
Queer actress Disha Ganguly takes her own life


On April 9th, Bengali television actress Disha Ganguly committed suicide. Known for her role in the popular sitcom Tumi Ashbey Bole, Disha’s parents allegedly pressured the talented, stunningly beautiful young woman to accept a proposal from Vivaan Ghosh, a fellow actor. However, Disha wasn’t in love with an actor; she was in love with an actress.
“A few months back, this actress friend of Ganguly, started staying at her apartment,” explained one police official to DNAIndia. “Soon, Ganguly’s mother arrived from Nairobi (where her parents reside) and objected to their relationship. Her mother even got her friend to move out of the apartment.”

Homosexuality is illegal in Bangladesh and India. A recent survey reports that 59% of the gays in Bangladesh live in fear of being outed.



Disha couldn’t bear the thought of never seeing her girlfriend again and marrying a man. When her girlfriend found out Disha was dead, she tried to follow her by throwing herself in front of an oncoming train. Locals snatched her to safety just in time, and the woman is now hospitalized.

One last, devastating devil of a detail: Media reports that in the days and hours before Disha’s suicide, she was torn between her fiancee and unnamed female lover.





“Police reports suggest that the TV actress was drawn into a situation where she battling pressure from her parents, her boyfriend and girlfriend. Eventually, she gave in to death.” They say that she was so confused by family pressure and rival love interests, she took her own life. Yet just a couple hours before Dish hung herself, she transferred Rs.50,000 from her personal bank account to a joint bank account shared by her girlfriend. So maybe she wasn’t so torn, in the end. Maybe she knew exactly who she wanted to be with. She just thought it was impossible.


Disha’s suicide is tragic and infuriating. This death was so preventable. If her parents, the people who were supposed to love and protect Disha, had just allowed their daughter to live an authentic and happy life, Disha might still be with us today. If homosexuality wasn’t illegal in Bangladesh, Disha might have known that suicide is not the only option when faced with homophobic pressure. If gay people were allowed to publicly be gay, without fear of government sanctioned abuse, Disha might have met someone she could relate to or sought help from an LGBT organization. Maybe someone could have convinced Disha that being gay isn’t wrong, or evil, or a sin, or embarrassing—it’s natural, and it doesn’t mean you can’t love yourself anymore. But none of those options were available to Disha, even though (and maybe even because) she was a beloved and successful actress.


Every article about Disha’s death refers to her girlfriend as a “friend.” A friend who threw herself on the train tracks when she heard that Disha had hung herself. A friend that lived in Disha’s apartment until Disha’s mother pressured her to move out. A friend Disha loved so much, so killed herself rather than marry a man. A fucking friend.

Disha was gay. She loved a woman very much, and she died for that love. When things like this happen, and gay women kill themselves rather than live a lie, do you ever wonder: “What would I do?” I do. Whenever I read a story like this, or even watch The Hours, I get this sort of melancholy, sickening, sinking feeling because I don’t think I could survive it either. I know I’m not supposed to say shit like that—shit that talks about suicide like it’s an option—or presents a bad example to young queer women reading this website. But I’m not a very good example anyway.


Sometimes I don’t think straight people understand the toll it takes to hide your sexual orientation, to fake attraction convincingly, to satisfy everyone by living in-authentically. I read everything I could about Disha, and then I closed my eyes and imagined I was her. Unpleasant memories bubbled to the surface. An empty, weightless sensation while some boyfriend thrashed on top of me. Counting cracks and stains on the ceiling. Returning his passionate kiss and thinking “This is what it means to be screaming on the inside.”

I wondered if Disha felt like that. Then I wondered how many girls will die like Disha.


பெங்காலி நடிகை திஷா கங்குலி வீட்டில் தூக்கு போட்டு தற்கொலை

பெங்காலி நடிகை திஷா கங்குலி இவர ‘துமி அஷ்பே போலே’ என்ற டெலிவிஷன் தொடர் மூலம் பிரபலமானார். திஷா கடந்த 9-ந்தேதி தனது வீட்டில் வைத்து தூக்கு போட்டு தற்கொலை செய்து கொணடார்.


23 வயதாகும் திஷா தனது வீட்டில் தனது படுக்கை அறையில் உள்ள பேனில் தனது துப்பட்டாவால் தூக்கு போட்டு தற்கொலை செய்து உள்ளார். அவரது படுக்கை அறை உள்பக்கமாக பூட்டப்பட்டு இருந்தது. அவரது நண்பர் கதவை உடைத்து திறந்து திஷாவின் உடலை கீழே இறக்கி உள்ளார்.என் போலீசார் தெரிவித்து உள்ளனர்.

தற்கொலை குறித்து எந்த குறிப்பும் அவர் எழுதி வைக்கவில்லை. ஆனால் வீட்டில் இருது போலீசார் அவ்ரது செல்போனையும் அவரது டைரியையும் போலீசார் விசாரணைக்காக கைப்பற்றி உள்ளனர்.விசாரணைக்கு பிறகே திஷா தற்கொலை குறித்து முடிவெடுக்க முடியும் என போலீசார் தெரிவித்து உள்ளனர்.


திஷாவுக்கு டிவி நடிகர் விவான் கோசுடன் பழக்கம் இருந்ததாகவும் . அவர்கள் தங்களது 5 வருட நட்பை அடுத்த கட்டத்திற்கு கொண்டு செல்ல இருவரும் முடிவு எடுததாகவும் கூறப்படுகிறது.

இந்த நிலையில் அவரது காதலர் விவான் கூறும் போது நாங்கள் இருவரும் விரைவில் திருமணம் செய்து கொள்ள முடிவு செய்து இருந்ததாக கூறி உள்ளார்.

The body of a Bengali television serial actress Disha Ganguly was found hanging at her south Kolkata home this morning as the police suspected she could have committed sucide.









Friday, 25 November 2016

ROOPA GANGULY ,POPULAR HINDI ACTRESS BORN 1966 NOVEMBER 26


ROOPA GANGULY ,POPULAR HINDI ACTRESS 
BORN 1966 NOVEMBER 25




Roopa (or Rupa) Ganguly (Bengali: রূপা গঙ্গোপাধ্যায়, rupa gônggopaddhae; born 25 November 1966) is an Indian actress, playback singer and politician.
Roopa Ganguly
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MP of Rajya Sabha (Nominated) [1]
Assumed office
4 October 2016
Preceded byNavjot Singh Sidhu
Personal details
BornRoopa Ganguly
25 November 1966 (age 49)[2]
KolkataWest BengalIndia
NationalityIndian
Political partyBJP
Spouse(s)Dhruba Mukherjee (1992–2006)[3]
OccupationActress, singer
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 She became popular after playing Mahabharat heroine character Draupadi in the hit television series Mahabharat (1988), and is mostly known for her roles in films like Padma Nadir Majhi (1993) by Gautam Ghose, Yugant (1995) by Aparna Sen, and Antarmahal (2006) by Rituparno Ghosh.[4] In 2015 she joined Bharatiya Janata Party.[5] On 4 October 2016, President nominated Roopa Ganguly to the Rajya Sabha to fill the vacancy of nominated member.












Personal life[edit]

Roopa Ganguly was born in Kalyani near Kolkata, West Bengal, India. She grew up in a joint family.[citation needed] She was a student of Beltala Girls' High School[citation needed],




 from which she finished her secondary examination (Madhyamik Pariksha). Later, she obtained a bachelor's degree from the Jogamaya Devi College, an affiliated undergraduate women's college of University of Calcutta, in Kolkata.[6]

Ganguly was married to Dhrubo Mukerjee from 1992 until 2006. In an interview Ganguly said that her husband started feeling insecure about her recognition as an actress. Her son Akash was born in 1997.[3] She was also in a live-in relationship with her singer companion, Dibyendu. 

The couple lived in Ganguly's Mumbai flat until the end of their relationship.[7][8] Her appearance in the concluding episode of STAR Plus's hit reality show, Sacch Ka Saamna (2009), the Indian adaptation of the British reality show, The Moment of Truth, created a media stir.

Film career[edit]

Roopa Ganguly debuted in the Anil Kapoor starrer, Saaheb (1985), after her graduation from Calcutta. Her second role was in Malayalam film, Ithile Iniyum Varu (1986), with Mammootty as lead. Though her first role as a lead actress, was the pivotal role of Draupadi, in B.R. Chopra's mythological TV series, Mahabharat (1988), which immediately got her attention,[9] and also lead to a role in Mrinal Sen's, Ek Din Achanak (1989).

Her other notable works are in award-winning film, Padma Nadir Majhi (1993) by Gautam Ghose, Yugant (1995) by Aparna Sen, Abar Aranye (2003) by Gautam Ghose, Antarmahal (2006) by Rituparno Ghosh, apart from these film appearances she has done, numerous television series, both in Bengali and Hindi, including Sukanya (1998) etc. She also appeared in notable cameo roles in the films "Dekha" and "Hemlock Society".

After working in a few Hindi films, she shifted to Kolkata, and after appearing in numerous Bengali films through the 1990s, shifted base to Mumbai in 2007, with an English film called, Bow Barracks Forever (2004), directed by Anjan Dutt,[10] and continued to act in Bengali films. She started working in Hindi TV series, with Karam Apnaa Apnaa (2007), moving on to Love Story (SAB TV series) (2007), and more recently in Agle Janam Mohe Bitiya Hi Kijo (2009). 

She won the National Film Award for Best Female Playback Singer for rendering her voice in the Bengali film Abhosheyshey.[11] She has also performed opposite the south super star Dr. Vishnuvardhan in two films Inspector Dhanush (Hindi) and Police Mathu Daadda (Kannada).

Political career[edit]

In 2015, Ganguly joined Bharatiya Janata Party ahead of West Bengal Legislative Assembly election, 2016.

In April 2016, Ganguly, a star campaigner for Bharatiya Janata Party, was attacked by Trinamool Congress party workers during an election campaign.[12][13]

In West Bengal Assembly elections 2016, Ganguly lost from Howrah North to Trinamool Congress counterpart and cricketer Laxmi Ratan Shukla.[citation needed]

She was nominated to the Rajya Sabha in October 2016 in place of cricketer Navjot Singh Sidhu who resigned earlier.[14][15]


Rupa Ganguly breaks her silence on her failed marriage and the new man in her life. The actress talks about the tremendous inner strength she needed to call on to start afresh at 42
Playing Draupadi did not necessarily mean that Rupa Ganguly���s life was blessed. The 42-year-old actress (Draupadi of Ravi Chopra���s Mahabharat) has been through a turbulent marriage and has finally found solace in a younger man. She had even put her career on a backburner for her husband, and ended up in a marriage that demanded that she turn her entire life upside down: she moved to Kolkata, became a domesticated housewife, was denied money for daily expenses and as a final resort, attempted suicide.
Finally, Rupa has defied the odds to find her individuality, which has resulted in a more balanced and loving relationship with 31-year-old singer Dibyendu, who is now living in with her in Oshiwara, Andheri. She muses over her troubled marriage with Dhrubo Mukerjee (whom she married in 1992) as she says, ���I had lost my confidence completely. I was shattered. But I guess, there���s light at the end of every dark tunnel. Dibyendu has brought a new meaning into my existence, which I wanted to destroy at one point of time.���
Rupa���s marriage had hit the rocks when Dhrubo started feeling insecure about her recognition as an actress. She recalls, ���I am in a profession which looks glamorous, but is that my fault? Kya main kuch kar sakti thi ki main Rupa Ganguly nahin rahoon? I think it is very difficult for a man to accept a celebrity as his wife. One has to be extremely emancipated to do it. No Indian male is.���
Rupa, though, was aware that marriages require work and commitment on both sides. On her part, she says that she made every possible effort to make it work. She talks about the self-induced changes, ���I never accepted any invitation which came only in my name. I never took any calls before 9am and after 10pm. As soon as my shoot would wrap up, I used to head home without even removing my make-up. I did everything that a girl should to keep her man happy. My marriage was always my first priority. I had left my career to go and settle with Dhrubo in Kolkata. I have never behaved like a celebrity at home. I don���t know how to behave like a celebrity outside, so why would I do it at home? But no matter how much I tried, I failed. Jhaadu pocha kiya, bartan kiya, kya nahin kiya maine? Despite all my attempts, I was being cornered.���
Things took an ugly turn when Dhrubo started denying her financial assistance. Hard-pressed for money, she returned to work not once, but four times, in her married life. And every time she felt she could sustain herself for a while with the money she had earned, she again confined herself to being a dutiful housewife. However, Dhrubo did not change.
Frustrated and fed-up, Rupa decided to end her life. She reveals, ���I attempted suicide not once but thrice ��� once before my son was born (Akash was born in 1997), twice later. All three times, I was adamant that I wanted to kill myself. The first time, I consumed an overdose of sleeping pills. But every time I was saved. I had tried my best to kill myself, but I guess God wanted me to endure more.���
Rupa���s marriage was strained to an irreparable extent when Dhrubo and Rupa started having frequent quarrels. She says, ���Around 2002, I could not handle the stress. Main divorce papers lati, phaad deti, phir laati, phir phaad deti. I used to ask for a divorce and he used to apologise. We used to patch-up.���
In 2005, the final blow fell when Dhrubo learnt that Rupa had fallen in love with Dibyendu, who is 12 years younger than her. The young musician would visit Dhrubo���s house to learn music in a group, which comprised of Rupa and her cousins. Rupa was courageous enough to stand up to her husband and confess that she was in love. Rupa says, ���I went up to him and told him that I had fallen in love with Dibyendu. He couldn���t take it. No man can.���
Rupa told Dhrubo in no uncertain terms that she wanted to stay away from him. She recalls, ���I told him that I didn���t want to stay with either him or Dibyendu. I just wanted my own space for a few days. I shifted to Mumbai.���
Rupa���s face glows when she describes Dibyendu, ���He is a very loving guy. My husband too used to be fond of him. He is a singer. Even my son was very close to him.���
Today, Dhrubo doesn���t allow her son Akash to meet Dibyendu. She says, ���I can���t bring my son to my house in Mumbai. However, I fly down to Kolkata at every opportunity. I don���t need to prove to the world how much I love him. I didn���t want to disturb Akash���s schooling. I didn���t want to be selfish and uproot him from his father. That���s why I didn���t fight with Dhrubo over Akash���s legal custody. I have explained this to Akash. He has seen what I have gone through and I���ve had a long chat with him recently.���
Rupa is proud that she walked out of Dhrubo���s life with her head held high. She says, ���I didn���t demand alimony and he asked me to sign papers which say that I won���t have any claim to his bank accounts, company profile and business deals hereafter. What���s the point of signing such documents when I didn���t have access to any of his assets ever?���

Today, Dibyendu is doing well for himself. A couple of months ago, he sang for Aa Dekhen Zara. He has also sung for Kites. She says, ���Pray for me, I need happiness in life. It was a very tough decision to leave my husband and son and come away to Mumbai and start all over again.���


Films[edit]

YearFilmLanguageDirector
1988Police Mathu DadaKannadaP. Vasu
1988KadanaKannadaP. Vasu
1989Ek Din AchanakHindiMrinal Sen
1989Agni TrishnaBengaliPrabhat Roy
1989Kamla Ki MautHindiBasu Chatterjee
1990Pyaar Ka DevtaHindi
1990Bahaar Aane TakHindi
1991Meena Bazar
1991Inspector Dhanush
1991SaugandhHindiRaj Sippy
1991Naa Ille Naa SwargamTeluguK. R. Reddy
1992Virodhi
1992NishchaiyHindiEsmayeel Shroff
1992RananginiAssameseChandra Mudoi
1993Janani aka MotherSanat Dasgupta
1993Padma Nadir Majhi
1995Gopalaa
1995Rana BhumiOriyaPranab Das
1996Yugant
1996Vrindavan Film Studios
2000BariwaliBengaliRituparno Ghosh
2002Anamni AnganaBengaliDr Swapan Saha
2003Abar AranyeBengaliGoutom Ghosh
2004Mahulbanir SerengBengali
2004Bow Barracks ForeverBengaliAnjan Dutt
2005Shunyo E BukeyBengaliKaushik Ganguly
2005Ek Mutho ChabiBengali
2005KrantikaalBengaliSekhar Das
2005NagordolaBengali
2006Bidhatar LekhaBengaliRaja Mukerji
2006AntarmahalBengaliRituparno Ghosh
2009LuckHindiDhillin Mehta
2011Jaani Dyakha HawbeBengali
2012AboshesheyBengaliAditi Roy
2012Barfi!HindiAnurag Basu
2012Aashbo Aar EkdinBengali
2012Hemlock SocietyBengaliSrijit Mukherjee
2012Na HannyateBengaliRingo Banerjee
2013Namte NamteBengaliRana Basu
2013Half SeriousBengaliUtsav Mukherjee
2013Nayan Chapar DinratriBengaliSekhar Das
2014PunaschaBengaliShouvik Mitra
2015Natoker Moto - Like a PlayBengaliDebesh Chattopadhyay
2015ArshinagarBengaliAparna Sen

Television[edit]

Awards and recognition[edit]